The Unicorn Syndrome
In our first exercise, we’re going to look at how invested you are in ‘The Unicorn Syndrome’ and whether your focus is on the reality of a relationship or the potential of a fairytale ending.
This exercise is not recorded in your Soul Plan, it is a light ice breaker to get you in thinking mode before the real work starts.
For those not currently in a relationship answer these questions from the viewpoint of a previous relationship
Interested in learning more about The Fairytale Syndome and how TJ can help? Learn more about Get Ready For Love
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If you have found yourself scoring between 0 and 30% you are probably fairly content with your compatibility with slight tendencies to look for improvements in certain areas. Be careful to focus on improving yourself and your ability to compromise as right now you seem to appreciate many things about your partner. Make sure you let them know that.
If you have found yourself scoring between 30% and 50% then you might be in danger of contracting “the Ick”. That feeling that something is just not right but not sure what it is. Ask yourself honestly are these expectations or behaviours you have for every partner or just this one?. We cannot change anyone else we can only influence how we react to the behaviours of others.
If you have scored 70%-90% then you are setting yourself for a lifetime of frustration and hoping things will change. As we have no control over the behaviour of others (even if we constantly try to exert it) we can only work with who they are now. Living in a constant need for them to change is going to mean you will miss out on focussing on the good things you have going rather than the things that need to change. I recommend that you carry out your Soul Mate Profiling review and understand who you really want to be in a relationship with. If you continue putting this much effort into making your partner someone else you are much more likely to miss out on your Soul’s mate
Let’s be honest about this – you are saying you prefer to change the way your partner looks and dresses, the way they show their love towards you, how they understand you and their life ambitions. In summary, you do not feel they live up to the potential you see in them but given time they might? Do you have this time and a magic wand? If not then you are wasting both your own and their time as your Soul pines for its mate. NEVER fall in love with your potential for someone as they are extremely unlikely to meet it!
Do you select your partner’s wardrobe?
Do you actively encourage your partner to change their appearance in any way?
Do you feel your partner needs more of your love, in order to be more loving?
Do you find yourself thinking “if only …… then we would be okay”?
Do you feel your partner should be more romantic?
Do you think your partner should be less sensitive?
Should your partner want more from life?
Do you feel your partner could become the person who would make you happy, given time?
Do you want your partner to show their love more?
Do you hope your partner will reach the potential you see in them?