Although Valentine’s day is traditionally a day for lovers to celebrate each other there is a growing trend of singleton’s investing in self-love on Valentine day’s.
Last year two-thirds of women planned to celebrate Valentine’s even if they didn’t have a partner in their lives. Men have often been so busy thinking about pleasing someone else on Valentine’s that they have considered what their own needs are for love.
Self-love is a pre-requisite to the success of your next relationship and can make the difference in this being the best relationship you have so far.
We teach others how to love us by how we treat ourselves, so what better time for a singleton than at Valentine’s to assess and invest in the concept of self-love.
Many are puzzled by how to recognise self-love – especially if they are devoid of it.
So let me shine a little light on some of its components:
Does this all sound familiar? Are these not the things that you may have been seeking or giving exclusively to others whilst neglecting yourself?
Self-love is the fundamental building block that needs to be in place to build a healthy relationship with another. You cannot expect someone else to give you something that you will not give yourself. It is your job to love you and a potential partner’s choice to join you as you reflect and share from that place of love.
So rather than lament the lack of a special someone in your life this valentine’s day why not utilise the day of love to reflect on what you truly want from a future relationship.
Here are 8 acts of self-love that you could consider investing in this Valentine’s day to both give you time for reflection and as a sign of how much you really care about yourself.
This Valentine’s day reflecting on your future needs and Investing in the time, energy or money to fall back in love with yourself could make all the difference between arriving and surviving or thriving in your next relationship.
Remember that life is for loving – and that includes yourself x
Articles that TJ writes for The Love Coach cover all steps in the cycle of love and include tips and advice for many dating or relationship issues. Her experience as a Love Therapist, Love Coach and Life Coach bring a real-life approach to everyday situations.
Remember life is for loving – that includes yourself!