First dates are an occupational hazard for many looking for love. Some progress beyond 2nd dates into long term relationships but for many the 2nd date is a No Thanks! Reasons for this can range from the first date being boring or not clicking through to their date confessing that they did time for stalking their ex!
A study of 2,000 Brits showed that on average woman goes on 7 standard first dates, a further 3 blind dates, and 2 online before they found a relationship. Men on average enjoy 8 dates, 3 blind dates and meet 3 people online. Even considering the lowest averages – not allowing for those serial daters chalking up 100’s of first dates – that is a lot of someone saying NO to a 2nd date.
So here are some Win-Win Do’s and Don’ts on how to say No to that next date whilst allowing your date to keep their dignity (good karma) and without causing yourself unnecessary grief.
Think how you would want someone to let you down if you really liked them! Your date might not be your type but their hot friend when you bump into them together in the bar next time might just be !
Articles that TJ writes for The Love Coach cover all steps in the cycle of love and include tips and advice for many dating or relationship issues. Her experience as a Love Therapist, Love Coach and Life Coach bring a real-life approach to everyday situations.
Remember life is for loving – that includes yourself!