So Christmas (I am going to shorten this to Xmas although some hate that!) has rolled round again in a blink of an eye.
If, like me, you have been watching “I am a Celebrity Get Me Out Of Here” this year were you one of those surprised by the Dingo Dollar answer that the % for those voting Xmas as the best time of the year was below 40%? Or are you one of the 60% plus who struggles around this time?
Do you relish planning and participating in Xmas shopping or do you see it as a thankless chore that you put off as long as possible and end up at Marks and Spencers on Xmas Eve?
Do you eagerly look forward to playing Charades and Board Games with the family or are you someone who dreads having to pretend you are enjoying being around people that you may try and avoid at most other times of the year?
There are so many factors that for some make this time of year difficult including:
But one of the hardest things to deal with at this time is facing the pain of the loss of love. For some this is because they have lost a loved one since last Xmas through bereavement and for others they may have lost the love of someone from a divorce or relationship breakdown.
There are also many that realise that they are spending yet another Xmas without someone to love and be loved by in their life – someone they would just love to spend money and time selecting a gift for.
If you are looking forward to Xmas and can’t wait then I hope your Xmas brings you all the love and happiness that you deserve. However, if you are one of those that may be facing a struggle over the next 2 weeks as you put on your game face and go through the motions here are some ways this Xmas to be kind to YOU!
It goes without saying that Xmas is a time when we focus on being kind and loving towards others. It is a time where love becomes evident either by its existence or in its absence. Many wait too long for love and acceptance to be given by others and abdicate responsibility of giving your love to you.
This Xmas add YOU! to your list of loved ones. You have lived and learned for the past 12 months now it’s time to reflect on your growth even if it has been painful. You might not yet be where you want to be but you are older and wiser than you have ever been and have a lot of past learning to utilise to make you happier going forward.
All you really need for Xmas is YOU! With Hugs and Kisses TJ xxxx
Articles that TJ writes for The Love Coach cover all steps in the cycle of love and include tips and advice for many dating or relationship issues. Her experience as a Love Therapist, Love Coach and Life Coach bring a real-life approach to everyday situations.
Remember life is for loving – that includes yourself!