Blogs & Articles

Our blogs and articles are a combination of TJ’s thoughts, guest writings, key articles, and helpful guidance’s for all stages of the love cycle.

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19 Simple Secrets to a Happy Relationship

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Happy relationship – it’s the holy grail, right? It’s no secret that relationships are hard work! It takes time, commitment and a lot of patience to build a happy and healthy partnership. When it comes to relationships, we spend a lot of time focusing on the big things — but often it is the small […]

Try these 8 Tips to Enhance your Long-Distance Relationship!

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Long-distance relationships are hard! There is no simple path to maintaining a long-distance relationship, either. They need care and attention like any other relationship, but there’s that extra layer of special care that needs adding when distance is involved. With that in mind, try these 8 techniques to keep things going well: 1. Establish Guidelines […]
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ALL I NEED FOR CHRISTMAS IS YOU!

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So Christmas (I am going to shorten this to Xmas although some hate that!) has rolled round again in a blink of an eye.  If, like me, you have been watching “I am a Celebrity Get Me Out Of Here” this year were you one of those surprised by the Dingo Dollar answer that the […]

Retreats for one: how a solo-break could change your perspective

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Taking a break alone is a daunting concept for many of the people I speak with. The idea of solitude in a foreign environment often stop them from experiencing what can be a very therapeutic and rewarding step in the journey to self-love and mindfulness. It’s normal to crave some distance; a change of scenery […]

Am I Being Manipulated? 7 ways to spot gaslighting.

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Is there someone in your life who is trying to negatively influence your emotions or perception without you realising? In the 1940’s Ingrid Bergman classic, Gaslight, a young woman unknowingly falls victim to the insidious mind games perpetrated by her own husband in an attempt to steal her inheritance by having her sectioned.

Self Love This Valentine’s Day

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This Valentine’s day, my message is one so often overlooked by those who need it most.  It is simple to pay lip service to but difficult to achieve.  Unbelievably personal yet will only manifest or grow when explored more openly and in depth.  My message relates to the recapturing of Self-Love. You may have heard […]

Affirmations

Our affirmations are a great self-empowerment tool.  Thought becomes actions – voicing thought makes it real.  Read though an affirmation, on your own or in front of a mirror, and improve your positivity/purpose.

It is a lovely feeling to be in love.

| TJ Gibbs
My heart sings when I think of the special person who makes me smile. It is a lovely feeling to share love with someone who I consider my soul mate. Being committed to a special person makes life meaningful. Knowing that I have someone to share my deepest secrets with is freeing. I am my […]

Each and every day, I make the person I love, feel extra special.

| TJ Gibbs
When I am around my loved one, I always ensure that I let them know by my words and actions that I love them and that they are the most important person in my life. I love to do things for them. I make them a special meal or arrange a pleasant surprise. I might […]
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My love for my partner is honest and strong.

| TJ Gibbs
As I reflect each day on how my day has progressed, my eyes turn to my partner. He is always there for me. I understand him. He understands me. What exists between us feels like home: comfortable and safe. My love for my partner is honest and strong. Even though life sometimes brings trying times, […]

Genuine love comes to me effortlessly.

| TJ Gibbs
My heart is full of love. Effortlessly, I can show others my affection for them. And my natural warmth is returned in kind by those around me. I am grateful for how easily all of this goodness comes to me. Because I know that the universe showers me with love at every possible opportunity, I […]

I give myself permission to love and be loved.

| TJ Gibbs
Loving others is exercise for my soul. Each time I embrace someone, I burn away the unwanted weight of hatred and bitterness. Love is the most basic of human feelings. We are born to love and be loved. Not only do I give myself permission to love, but I also require myself to look at […]

I show affection to others.

| TJ Gibbs
I show affection to others. Sometimes, I am overwhelmed with feelings of caring toward my friends and family or even a co-worker with whom I have worked closely over the years. When I first see a loved one after a long absence, I feel profoundly glad to see them. When I experience these warm feelings, […]

Love Reflections

Love reflections are more assertive than affirmations, but they’re also deeper.  Go through a process of  questions, giving time and thought to these, gives real results.

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What Are Your Relationship Patterns

| TJ Gibbs
It’s not easy to know where the issues in a relationship originate. There are two sides to every story – of course, that doesn’t mean the two sides are equal! This Love Exercise is designed to help you identify if there’s an element of self-sabotage involved. There’s no point scoring, no big reveal or answers page. This is a self-reflection exercise to help you find some clarity
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The Little Things

| TJ Gibbs
Author of “The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work” and researcher John Gottman believes that couples who make it encounter 5-20 more positive interactions than negative ones. His research shows, that by stacking up the little things, the couples find happiness with each other.
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Returning Joy to Your Marriage

| TJ Gibbs
Marriage is often considered a happily ever after – but we know in reality it isn’t that simple. Blindly running forward as though the happily ever after comes together when you need it can lead to heartache and disillusionment. So how do we get the love back? One way to return the joy to love is by remembering what we loved about them to begin with.
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Managing Your Dating Stress

| TJ Gibbs
Dating can be a mass of nerves! Whilst you’re going through the steps of dating, it’s important to have good coping skills. Explore those skills below and if you like, we can book a session to explore them further.
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Family Patterns

| TJ Gibbs
We learn our ‘love maps’ very early in childhood, they are fleshed out and developed by those around us throughout childhood and teenage years. As a result, we can often find ourselves reliving patterns of love. Reflecting on this can be a huge first step to managing it. As the quote goes, “Those who do not learn history are doomed to repeat it.”
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Are You Sabotaging Relationships?

| TJ Gibbs
It’s not easy to know where the issues in a relationship originate. There are two sides to every story – of course, that doesn’t mean the two sides are equal! This Love Exercise is designed to help you identify if there’s an element of self-sabotage involved. There’s no point scoring, no big reveal or answers page. This is a self-reflection exercise to help you find some clarity

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